For families
How to stage an intervention: A step-by-step guide
An intervention is a carefully planned conversation in which family and friends express their concern about a loved one's substance use and encourage them to accept treatment. When done well, interventions are effective — studies show that 80-90% of professionally facilitated interventions result in the person agreeing to seek treatment.
When an intervention makes sense
Consider an intervention when your loved one denies the severity of their problem, has refused repeated suggestions to get help, is experiencing escalating consequences (job loss, legal problems, health crises, relationship breakdown), and when continued use poses a risk of serious harm or death. An intervention is not appropriate during active intoxication, if the person has a history of violence when confronted, or if the intervention team is not emotionally prepared.
The preparation phase
Successful interventions are planned, not spontaneous. Form a team of 4-8 people who are important to the person — family, close friends, an employer, a faith leader. Each person writes a specific, personal impact statement: "When you [specific behavior], I felt [specific emotion] and it affected [specific consequence]." These statements should be factual, specific, and expressed with love — not anger. Identify a treatment facility and confirm availability before the intervention so that if the person agrees, they can enter treatment immediately — ideally within hours.
Professional interventionists
Hiring a professional interventionist significantly increases the likelihood of success. They guide the planning, coach the team on their statements, manage the emotional dynamics during the conversation, have treatment facility relationships for immediate placement, and handle resistance and negotiation. Costs range from $1,500-$10,000 depending on the interventionist's experience and travel requirements. The Association of Intervention Professionals (AIP) maintains a directory of certified interventionists.
If they say no
Not every intervention results in immediate acceptance. If your loved one refuses, maintain your boundaries as stated during the intervention (these should be established in advance — for example, "If you don't accept treatment, you cannot continue living in our home"). Do not make threats you won't follow through on. Leave the door open for them to change their mind. Many people who refuse initially accept within days or weeks.
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Frequently asked questions
Do interventions actually work?
Yes. Professionally facilitated interventions result in the person agreeing to seek treatment 80-90% of the time. Success rates are higher with professional guidance than family-only attempts.
How much does a professional interventionist cost?
Professional interventionists typically charge $1,500-$10,000 depending on experience, travel, and complexity. The Association of Intervention Professionals maintains a directory of certified interventionists.
What do you say during an intervention?
Each participant shares a specific, personal impact statement using facts and love, not anger. Example: 'When you missed Thanksgiving because you were using, I felt heartbroken and scared for your life.'
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