Recovery & aftercare
How to tell people you don't drink without making it weird
Published November 10, 2024 · Updated May 2026 · 7 min read
Clinically reviewed · Sources: SAMHSA, NIDA, ASAM, peer-reviewed research.
The dreaded question: want a drink? Truth: nobody cares as much as you think. You need way less explanation than you think.
Simple responses
No thanks, I'm good (works 90% of the time). I'm not drinking tonight. I'm driving. I'm on medication. I'm doing a health thing. I don't drink (direct, confident, done).
For pushers
If someone pushes past your decline, that's their problem. You owe no one an explanation. Your sobriety is not up for debate.
When to disclose
You never have to tell anyone you're in recovery. You choose who gets that information. I don't drink is sufficient for anyone.
Need help?
Call SAMHSA at 1-800-662-4357 or search our directory.
Frequently asked questions
How do I tell people I don't drink?
No thanks, I'm good works 90% of the time. No explanation needed.
Do I have to say I'm in recovery?
No. You choose who gets that information.
What if people pressure me?
That's their problem. Repeat your decline. If they persist, they're not respecting your boundaries.