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How to talk to someone about their drinking

Published October 8, 2024 · 7 min read · Updated April 2026
Reviewed for accuracy by licensed clinical professionals.

The conversation about drinking is one of the hardest and most important you will have.

Timing

When they are sober. When you are calm. When you have privacy. Not during or after a crisis.

Approach

Use I-statements. Share specific observations. Express concern, not judgment. Listen. Have resources ready. Accept that one conversation may not be enough.

Authoritative sources

This article references guidelines from: SAMHSA · NIDA · ASAM

Frequently asked questions

How do I find help?
Call SAMHSA at 1-800-662-4357 or search our directory.
Is treatment effective?
Yes. Evidence-based treatment works.
Does insurance cover this?
Yes under the Mental Health Parity Act.

Disclaimer: Informational only. Not medical advice. SAMHSA: 1-800-662-4357.

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