Recovery & aftercare

How to find and work with a sponsor in recovery

Published December 20, 2025 · 7 min read · Updated April 2026

Reviewed for accuracy by licensed clinical professionals.

A sponsor is a person with more recovery experience who guides you through the 12 steps and provides personal support. Sponsorship is one of the strongest predictors of sustained recovery.

Finding a sponsor

Attend meetings regularly and listen for people whose recovery you admire. Look for someone with at least 1 year of sobriety, a sponsor of their own, and active step work. Ask someone whose message resonates with you. It is OK to ask someone you do not know well.

What sponsors do

Guide you through the 12 steps. Share their experience. Provide accountability. Be available for support calls. Model recovery behavior. Challenge your thinking when needed. They are NOT therapists, not available 24/7, and not responsible for your sobriety.

Making it work

Call your sponsor regularly (not just in crisis). Be honest even when it is uncomfortable. Do the work they suggest. Respect their boundaries. Remember that sponsorship is mutual, both parties benefit.

Changing sponsors

It is OK to change sponsors if the relationship is not working. Different stages of recovery may benefit from different sponsors. A geographical or schedule-based change is perfectly valid.

Authoritative sources

This article references guidelines from: SAMHSA · NIDA · ASAM

Frequently asked questions

How do I find a sponsor?

Attend meetings regularly. Listen for someone whose recovery you admire. Ask them to sponsor you. It does not need to be complicated.

What does a sponsor do?

Guides you through the 12 steps, shares experience, provides accountability, and models recovery behavior.

Do I need a sponsor?

Sponsorship is strongly associated with better recovery outcomes. While not required, it is highly recommended.

Disclaimer: Informational only. Not medical advice. SAMHSA: 1-800-662-4357.